March 4, 1996
D’Twe Jlopleh Nyanseor
Georgia Southern University
210 Lanier Drive, Apt. 702
Statesboro, Georgia 30458
My Dearest D’Twe:
Today you will be celebrating your 21st birthday. I want to be among the first to wish you happy birthday and to express to you my love and sincere thanks for all the happiness you have brought into our lives from year to year. In this regard, may the happiness you have given us throughout the years, return to you today and years to come.
Moreover, please accept my heartfelt congratulation on this important day in your life. Your mother, sister, our community and I, are very proud of you. Your exemplary qualities are beyond reproach; because you are loving, kind, understanding, respectful, considerate, friendly, and most of all, you listen when spoken to. Because of these qualities, we appreciate you a lot, and for seriously taking our advice. This is a mark of a “good” child; one who is bound for greatness. Therefore, all we ask of you from this day forward, is to continue in this path. Never let anyone take you off your track. Remember — if you stay on this course, you will be destined for better things in life.
Furthermore, I would like for you to remember always that we come from a very rich tradition. A tradition that has the hallmark of excellence. For there is nothing that we put our mind to, we cannot achieve. It may take long sometimes, but with persistence, it will be realized. Regarding this special trait of ours, your paternal grandmother always reminded us (her children) of it in this manner: “There is nothing impossible in life that one cannot achieve; confident in oneself, makes impossibilities possible. For an individual’s failures in life, lies in quitting at a time when his/her dream is within reach.” This is what my teacher (your grandmother) taught me at an early age. It has been my philosophy all these 48 years. You too, could benefit from it!
Let me assure you that your mother and me will continue to be proud of you, and all we ask of you in return is for you to make the sky your limit to achieve whatever you make your goal(s) in life.
This brings to mind what Rep. Kweisi Mfume, former Chairman of the Congressional Black Caucus said some time ago: “I learned at an early age that life is a short commodity. You have to do all you can when you can.” And if l may add — If one thinks EDUCATION and hard work as well as too expensive, try IGNORANCE, and you’ll soon find out how far IGNORANCE will carry you in life.
Son, another thing you need to remember in this life is — in selecting a mate, you need to look for some similarities of purpose and goal. By this I mean, similar qualities and philosophy about life. Rep. Patricia Schroeder of Colorado summed up these qualities of a “good” relationship better. In describing her relationship between she and her husband, she said, “There’s no goal post in our home. We don’t keep score on each other. Each partner gains when one does better than the other. My husband and I see ourselves as an organic whole, as opposed to competitors.” This is what I meant by similar qualities and philosophy about life! This is as important as the air you breathe. Because most failure in life starts from the domestic arena. So, don’t be deceived by outer beauty alone; balance it with inner beauty. Keep this in the back of your mind when making this decision.
Also, whatever you do, you should always put God first. With God on your side, no harm or wrong will come your way. Believe me, I know this from experience. God is in the beginning and at the end of everything we do. He is tender and sympathetic to those who reverence Him. For He knows we are but dust and that our days are few and brief, like the grass and the flowers that are blown away by the wind. In this regards, you should always be gentle and ready to forgive; never hold grudges. Remember, the Lord have forgiven you for your transgressions, so you too must forgive others (Colossians 3:13). Proverbs 16:32 reminds us that He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit is greater than he who captures a city. Because a cheerful heart does good like medicine, but a broken spirit makes one sick (Proverbs 17:22).
So D’Twe, don’t be selfish; don’t live only to make a good impression on others. Be humble, think of others as better than yourself — with room for improvement. Don’t just think about your own affairs, but be interested in others, too, and in what they are doing. Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. LOVE forgets mistakes. LOVE is patient, it is kind and it keeps no record of wrongs. Therefore, when you love, you will never be glad about injustice, will rather rejoice whenever truth wins out. And if you love someone, you will be loyal to that person no matter what the cost. You will always believe in that person, you will always expect the best of that person, and will always stand your ground in defense of that person. In this world, there are three powerful things that count, they are: FAITH, HOPE and LOVE. But the greatest of these three, is LOVE. Always be prepared to give it freely.
Son, I have said lots of things in this letter to you. I don’t expect you to remember all that I have written on these pages. But this much, I would like for you to carry with you always: A fool always loses his temper; a wise man holds it back, and with FAITH, HOPE and LOVE, you will live a meaningful and rewarding life.
Oh! for the purpose of this occasion, I wrote this poem for you; it is titled, FROM YOUR MOTHER AND ME, and it reads:
FROM YOUR MOTHER AND ME
D’Twe, you are a part of the universe
The best part so far
You as unique as every living thing
Put here on Earth by the Creator
Of the heaven and the earth
You’re of infinite worth
For there’s no other quite like you
You are more than special!
A gift to the world
Your mother and me.
Son, time changes many things
And some may lose their value
But to us, you are a precious gift
A priceless commodity
That cannot be bought nor sold
One that grows priceless every year
Because the value attached to you
Is far greater than
A mountain of diamond or gold.
So what can we say to you, D’Twe?
A son who’s the best there is
Who has given us
Many happy memories
Who has made us proud and not sad
Perhaps all that we can
Put into words is
“Thank you” D’Twe Jlopleh Nyanseor
And we hope you understand
How much you mean to us
So keep Faith, Hope and Love alive.
Finally son, in all things, give thanks to God first, and than to your mother. If it had not been for her, you might not have known how deeply concern and loving a family can be; how welcoming and assuring a home can be; how beautiful and lasting a mother’s love can be. As for me, all that I give of myself to you is courage – not to be afraid; to take risk, to keep hope alive, and to love and to be an inspiration to you and those that I encounter.
So “D,” have a blessed and rewarding day.
With all of my love today, the day before and days ahead. I remain,
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